We tend to dawn this image onto our young men that if they’re not successful or have fat pockets then you shouldn’t be with them. Black men in particular. Often times you may hear women say “if he’s broke then I don’t want to be with him”. Now this is not directed towards bashing women or trying to change anyone’s standards but to merely bring attention to something that is often overlooked in our communities. Most of these behaviors are found in young adults.
If someone is 20 years old and "doesn't have it all" (whatever that means) he'll be talked down upon and not to mention most of the time these people come from the inner city and grew up poor and never have they’ve been taught about finances, proper/smart investments, group economics, etc. Somehow we're always expecting our young men to be financially stable when the sad reality is things aren’t currently set up for us that way.
People who didn't grow up in the inner city are most likely not even working at the age of the 20. They are still in college and their parents or guardian(s) are still paying for everything in terms of finances. They are not working, they are in school and for the most part are given allowances. Pretty much they have an adult age but they still they are still kids or "adults in training" is what I like to call it for the most part. If these are the way things are then why do we push this extra pressure onto our young black men? Why do we talk down when they lack things at a young age? Why do we talk and bash the black male who wasn't taught anything about finances and proper investments and was left alone to let his environment raise him?
These are issues that are constantly overlooked in our communities and it needs to be addressed. We grow up poor then bash people for being poor. If someone is young and from the inner city of course they’re not going to have it all. As a young adult, instead of talking down on someone because of their financial situations we need to start seeing if they have goals and what are their plans.
It seems as though nobody wants you when you have nothing but when you have everything you are seemingly more attractive. When you are grinding no one seems to want to grind it out with you but they love to seek the benefits of the outcome. The lessons we’ve been taught contribute to more separative tactics. They also play a major role in mental health which is another conversation.
Peace and love.